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Actually keep busy instead of feigning it. What I am really trying to do here is get you far away from the idea of her as possible, so you can build up your own life and meet more women. Ideally, I would like you to be working on building your attraction skills. You should be meeting other women and practicing approaching and talking to other girls.
That way, you can see how many other women there are and you can live an abundant life, rather than zoning in on one girl. Remember when I said that a woman wants to be with a MAN? And do you remember when I outlined above how to do that? Well, this is where we use this stuff. The easiest way to do this is by pretending like anything in the past with you and her never happened and this is a completely new girl. This will spark the desire that she needs to feel attracted.
Yes, touch her. If she feels your masculinity in the moment at hand, she will start to feel something for you. This is going to show her that you are liked by other girls and gets her thinking about you on a non-sexual level. Bring your new girlfriends even if they are just friends around when you see her again. Now, if you can handle being friends with her then this is a great opportunity to meet new hot girls with whom you can build attraction.
This new friend of yours can help you demonstrate pre-selection. Go out with her to the bars. Take her around to introduce you to her friends. Take advantage of this friendship so you can get easier access to girls you can build attraction with. The best news is that these tips will help you create a positive feedback loop when it comes to dating. I hope these tips have demystified the friend zone a bit. How do I know for sure? Tripp Advice is for adults only. You may want to speak with an older friend that you trust.
Thank you. Tell her someone else wants to know if she has a boyfriend. Then wait to make a move. Good luck. Thanks for the 2 cents. Would there be any point to asking then? Not really. I need help! Almost every night he sends an emoji kiss. We still go out to fancy restaurants.
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Sometimes he pays sometimes I pay depending on how we are for money sometimes we split it no specific order. Strictly holding hands!! So what gives? He wants to be friends but behaves like boyfriend, I want OUT of the friend zone! Please help!! If he wants the benefits that being a boyfriend entails, then he should BE your boyfriend. Or if he really just wants to be friends, then YOU need to set the boundaries and make it clear, that people who are just friends do not do this, and that if he wants to do this or ask that of you, then he will have to settle for an actual friendship.
Hope this helps for now and good luck. Email me at tripp trippadvice. Hey Tripp, great job you are doing here! Well done! Can I mail you, I need you urgently. Thank you! Hey Tripp I have a very bad problem that needs your guidence is there some way I can talk to you privately about it and ask you my question and tell you my story? You can send me an email at tripp trippadvice. I check it every day. I am living proof of the friendzone, its not a place any straight man deserves to be. Avoid it at all cost. We discuss about things we both interested in at work, about work and also about the food we like when we have a break together and also try not be too funny.
Its a big turn off believe me. Try to get her out of her comfort zone without beeing too confusing to her. Always be confident with what you say and how you say. Thats my tips i can give you. The more i worked there, beeing successfull in my job the more she liked me i noticed until we met and went out in the club one evening. We danced, had fun, drank together but no word on relationship. Im very carefull since shes my colleage. However i must admit that i like her more than she thinks i do and i havent let her know yet.
Well I mean im a bit confused because Im not sure about all this situation. When we were in the club she looked into my eyes more than once and gave me some signs that she is willing to go further but then again i think about her friend. She once told me that she is not happy in her relationship. Not directly but she said something like we are always having a fight and things like that. I dont know the specifics and i dint ask. As always i stayed neutral.
She knows i have a girlfriend and she know I like her as a friend. Basicly im beeing a nice guy but still someone who knows what he wants. In my job im taken serious and people like me. There is really no one who doesnt like me. My boss likes me and so do everyone. Im so confused at the moment because im really feeling in love with her but i just cant tell her.
The funny thing is i like beiing friend with her and going out to the club. Another colleage of mine tried to date her but she rejected him haha. He always complains about the work and basicly he is very negative. Well i will see how it goes in future and write more. Hi Cero. Thanks for sharing your story. My first tips would be to not allow yourself to be so taken with a girl who has a boyfriend. If a girl is in a relationship, happy or not, you are setting yourself up for confusion, disappointment and failure by allowing yourself to be interested in her.
But for now, she has a boyfriend. You can do better than being interested in a girl who is in a relationship. I should also add that she didnt tell my colleage that she is in a relationship which is weird.
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The poor guy is probably pissed off now. But recently one of our mutual friends broke up with his girlfriend and now him and my crush have a thing. They hang out a lot right now! Thanks Tripp! Two years is too long to make a move. Now im going out with her again.. If you had, she would not agree to going out with you again. Hey tripp, I have a friend who I used to like, but never had the balls to go after. So for a few months, I followed her around secretly like a puppy.
Then, I gave up. So I forced myself to get over her. But a few days back, I realized her birthday was coming up and I started chatting with her in an effort to try to figure out a good gift for her. Then, it hit me. By it, I mean the raw attraction I had for her, stronger than ever before. She was depressed about her birthday cause she thought none of her friends were going to be there for her etc, and I calmed her down.
In this whole deal, I unintentionally blabbed that I liked her. I mean there is definitely some sort of spark, no matter how tiny. I push and pull her, just like you mentioned, and I make her laugh to no end. Our conversations are real, raw, and have an almost flirty back and forth feel to them. But those are just momentary. Then she goes back to that mode of disbelief. This is driving me crazy. Please advise.
Regards, Lost soul. Thanks a lot Tripp. By the way, I am a big fan, thanks for giving me this opportunity to converse with you. You say whatever you want to ask her out. Hi Tripp, I have become a best friend with a girl I really like. But I was with her talking, smiling, having fun, and we became best friends. She is single now. Can you give me an advice.
Can I make her like me? And how to do that? If you tell me to do that: How should I touch her? What should I say to her? I would be happy if you can explain me with examples. Or should I just tell her that I like her? I can say that she is really mature, regardless she is in high school, and I am not like the coolest guy there, but I am in good high status.
At last, I will give you what I think I should do, and you can also tell me if you agree with me. I think I do have a chance with her. I think persistence pays off. Hi Alex. Watch the former first to learn what you need to stop doing and the latter to learn what you need to start doing. This is the ideal situation. Hope that helps and good luck.
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I like this girl who has a boyfriend and am hoping to somehow win her over. I know it may be unethical but is there a way to steal her from him? My advice is for mature and intelligent guys who are trying to create the dating life they want, and know better than to do things like that. You have some growing up and learning to do and I hope you get started soon because nobody likes a rat. Your right Im sorry, jealousy blinded me i guess.
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I love your advice and will apply it in life. Who knows maybe I will find someone better. Hi Tripp, I met a girl on a train and we hit it off instantly, or so I thought. I joined her on a trip to a European city and then I asked her out for dinner. She agreed to it but stated that it was not to be considered a date, because she believed in not labeling things as long as one is having fun. I thought it to be fair enough but was a bit disappointed. She did mention that she agreed to having dinner because she found me interesting.
We had an amazing time in that city and exchanged numbers and other social media details. We texted each other a few times after that and I called her a few times over a period of 2 months. I finally had the time to visit her for a weekend in her city. I visited her place and she showed me around the enchanting city. She introduced me to few of her friends and we had a great party at her place.
I told the girl that I really liked her and that it would be amazing to go out with her on a date sometime. She was taken aback by that and seemed confused. She informed me that she had been dating a guy from university for a few weeks but broke up a couple of weeks prior to the weekend we met. She seemed to be struggling to move on from that and told me that she was not looking forward to dating anyone right now. She told me that we could discuss this again some time later. I really like this girl and enjoy her company. Do you advice me to move on or maybe discuss this again with her while staying in contact.
The sooner you let this one go and find a girl who knows what she wants, the better. Hey Tripp! First and foremost I want to say thank you for your excellent and frankly inspiring blog, youtube videos and spot on advice. Also when they are single. I have a question on a female friend. My thing is I met her about 5 years ago hear me out first haha!
She kept in touch after graduation, and made it a point to invite me to things, especially since shortly after she emigrated for work, so whenever she visited, it was a point to see me. I found out on one visit she became single last year but she was here for 2 hours so.. I did meet her alone that day by luck. I tended to text her flirty stuff on her birthday or special occasions like Christmas. However she did tell me around march time she was moving back here in october to the uk and seemed pretty excited about it and about seeing me more often etc. Texted me on landing as well btw.
To be clear I have been working on myself and meeting others where I can. But I did text another mutual friend of ours a female in the interim and meet up with her actually come to think of it, it was just us, was that a date?! Also been texting other women of course and actually bumped into someone from the past and just somehow had a flirty conversation on the spot. Any advice would be appreciated! Once again you rock and I look forward to your sage like, epic wisdom Sir Tripp? Ask her out. Hi Tripp, I have know this girl for about 5 years at work. About 4 months ago we started seeing each other about 2 times a week anything from going out to staying home and cooking so I have no problem seeing her one on one.
She says she feels safe and comfortable with me. She makes up excuses to talk to me at work also. So about two months ago I asked her if she would like to go out on a date and she said that she only liked me as a friend. So the last two months I have been completely ignoring her and she will text me once in awhile to see how I am. We happened to run into each other at work today and she asked how I was I told her I have just been really busy.
She said she missed talking to me and had been really busy also but may she was going to have more free time. She has told a co work of mine that she likes me and one night I was on date and ran into her and she started crying. I am retired military so I am pretty alpha already.
Do you have any advice. I suggest keeping it simple and asking her out on another date. Thank you Tripp her birthday is coming up and we made plans for me to cook her dinner than I am taking here to a large concert that I am running the production for so it should be fun. Hey Tripp there is a girl whom I have been friends with for past 4 months and she is the first ever girl who talks with me so much…..
And I have hanged out with her quite a bit but at the same moment there were some other friends too…. Bcoz she is the only one I want to be with…. I think the only element missing in me is that I am not a funny joke telling person…Please suggest me a way abt what should I do…. Ask her to have dinner with you somewhere. Hey Tripp, i have been friendzoned with a girl. Hi tripp. I just need some advices on how to really start a conversation with her and making her want to talk to me even more.
Make her willing to go out with me if i ask her. Thanks tripp? Hey tripp, i love the girl which i want to be a part of my life,even she knows that i like her, but how can i tell her that I LIKE HER and to proceed further…even we hang out together so how to proceed further n approach her so that she will take more intrest in me. Go watch it and learn how. Hey tripp now that girl knows very well that i love her, but she is telling me that she likes the another guy, and should i move on with him or not?
Basically i dont know why she asked me like this? N is she wants to know my decision out for her or anything else…. I asked her if she ever thought about dating me and she said that on the first year we met she thought that a lot. But It seemed to me she is interested, I mean she was very open, she laughed when i told her that I believe she likes me. But we have been in contact and hanged out. She is not a touchy person, neither do i, but i have passed the touch barrier touching her on the back, just above her butt, hugs, shoulders, kisses only on her cheeks.
I believe she is confused after her breakup and wants to experience something different. Ive liked a girl for a few months and I finally had the guts to ask her out. She wanted some friends to come too which I was ok with. Any advice? Also if it helps I am only 16 and just want a girlfriend not for sex or anything. Hi Tripp I like this girl for few months and we started to flirt and everything was going great. What should i do? You need to watch all my videos, listen to my podcasts and get my courses. Because then you will learn how to get out of the friend zone and how to make a girl feel attraction for you.
Now consider what you know; she likes you as a friend and she has a boyfriend. Expand your options today. Dear Tripp, I would also like to share my friendzone problem. My story is long , but I will be as succinct as possible. I met a girl at November I fell in love from the first moment I saw her. She was and still is a high school student. I am a univesity student. I fall in love extremelly rarely and I feel that this girl is very important for me.
Actually , I spend about 10 hours per day studying. From November till November , she had been evading me. I asked her for a date dozens of times. When I say dozens , I mean it litterally , not metaphorically! She postponed the date for more than a year. It was as if she enjoyed playing with me. However , during this year , we spent a lot of time chatting at facebook. Of course , I was the one that sent messages first , but she always replied. We gradually got to know each other. Finally , we had our first date. It lasted only 1 hour. But soon we had plenty of other dates.
We spent a lot of time together during the following months I spent all of my very limited free time for her and one day she told me that I was her best friend! She also told me that she wanted to sleep with me!! Only sleep , without doing sex. However,during these months , she had a lot of boyfriends and she even asked me for advice. She even used me to make her boyfriends jealous! Finally , by the end of March , I decided to reveal my intensions. She had broken up a week ago , so I assumed that the time was right. So she asked for 15 days to think.
During these 15 days , she changed her mind many times. We even had a relationship for 5 days. She said that she liked another boy and that she is not ready for serious relationships right now. She also said that perhaps we could be together at some point in future. She asked me to remain her best friend , but I declined the offer. From April till May , we had been talking , but only for a couple of minutes per day. By the end of May , I told her that I need to study and that we will talk again in October because I am too busy. I want to tell so she knows that I want to be more than a friend.
Go ahead and tell her how you feel and see how that works out for you. Or save yourself from the disappointment and frustration that always comes after telling a girl how you feel and build up the attraction by flirting with her instead. Been friends with a girl amongst mutual friends for 6 months. We both showed interest and we have gone out on a couple dates. We made out on our last date and I can tell this will probably go further. I know the general rule of thumb is to play it cool, not text so much, and not be so available to keep the attraction there. So my question is, should I do that and not be in touch with her texting, calling, hanging out in a group as often as we did when we were friends?
Or does it even matter at this point? It depends on her receptivity to your leading. You should be doing your homework and enjoying your childhood. Hey Joshua. Imma try your method tomorrow with the girl I met. Hi Tripp you are right it is best not to get into the friend zone in the first place. If a woman like you. I have learnt to show no fear in showing my masculine side to woman I like. Even with a Chinese woman you must keep escalating the tension. I noticed the touch barrier was down.
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This means now I have a relationship with a Chinese lady living at the moment in Beijing China. Go to work on your self-esteem. Confidence means nothing when it comes to dating. Women are shallow even more shallow than we are. You can be the most confident guy in the world, but if you are not good looking enough, women will have nothing to do with you. I may possibly be the ugliest guy alive.
I approach women all the time, and I always get blown off, no matter what I say. Besides , at my age, I mean real below average looking guys. So, I understand. I wish I could help you. Proven how, Tripp? I listen to your podcast and check for updates every day. Even the one with Ross Jeffries, which was cringeworthy. But have you ever experienced the nasty looks, the ridiculing laughs, and the turning of the back to you, looking in the other direction, and the response of absolute DISGUST from girl after girl just for daring to attempt to speak to her?
Well, I have. So, excuse me for having beliefs that have been proven to myself time and time again over the course of several decades. And excuse me for not simply drinking the Kool-Aid and throwing away decades of the widely accepted belief that women are attracted to LOOKS over anything else besides maybe money. What other methods of meeting women have you tried? Singles events? Speed dating? Social circle? Hard to say on this end. I was recently dating a girl who works in the office at my last job. I left the company after 18 years, for a better position with more money, and a better schedule.
Since then, things kind of fizzled out. I guess she just moved on. If we do go out, I am just a third or fifth wheel. No fun. None of my friends know anyone who is single. I was posing a rhetorical question. Thanks for answering. Looking forward to your next podcast episode. Next podcast coming soon. John, I am writing to bring you the evidence you wanted: I am currently in high school and the guys in my year with girlfriends are all ugly and have TONS of disgusting spots!
Nobody legit cares! I cant help but read your comments, the reason you cant get a girl has nothing to do with your looks. You have a really bad way of presenting yourself. You come across as bitter, and toxic. If I was girl I would run. You think your ugly, so you dress the way you think, you carry yourself the way you think, you approach the way you think. Forget about your looks, forget about girls. Do something your passionate about, exercise, learn to love life, have some enthusiasm.
Even if you are ugly, who cares, you got through the last 17 years, make the next 17 years count. Stop over thinking it. Hi Tripp! What should we talk about? Sorry that this is so long and I really need some advice from you. Thanks a lot! She still contacts me and got jealous of another girl she saw me hanging out with. It looks like seeing other girls is what is getting you out of the friend zone with her. Keep doing that. Hi tripp i hope u are fine and im so thinkfull for what you are doing. So i met this girl in school after we talked on social media we start to meet in the cafe to study.
I were like myb she likes me. I hope you help me. All of her replied are short answers and with few words —. Do i have any chance?? Hey Tripp i am talking to a girl that i have know for like 4 months went out on a date then tried to arrange second date she seems kind avoiding but then later suggesting that we should do something. We kind flirt but she ever hardly initiate a conversation and sometimes she just never replies back. Would this some kind of friendzone i may be falling into?
Might be best to let this one go and find a nice girl who deserves your attention. I had a fling with a girl at work. After months of flirting, building sexual tension and hot texts we ended up sleeping together. The issue I have is straight after sex she cried to me about an ex boyfriend who she dumped 3 months ago. During the fling outside of being physical we went on dates, held hands and talked about the future. I think so. But it also sounds like she has some things she needs to workout before being totally available.
Probably be better to let her do these things before picking things back up. Thanks for the advice. She texts me and tags me in social media literally everyday. The worst thing is I pay for all the meals and drinks but she ends up leaving me afterwards alone. I really like her though so how should I play it? I feel used and a shoulder to cry on right now. Hey Tripp, my name is Sam and I am Yes I am still in high school lol, and there is this girl who is younger than me who I met and has admitted that she had a thing for me Just a couple months ago.
What do you recommend I do to spark that attraction? Should I pursue her in public? Ask her to the movies? Or become scarce for awhile? So getting out of the friend zone is easy, but how do you get out of the no zone? The way you get out of the no-zone is by making yourself super attractive to girls and meeting a lot of them. I am tired of the way the term friendzone has become a term for creepy guys expecting sex from being nice to a women. I define being in the friendzone differently.
The guy has strong feelings for the woman and it has been there for a long time and anyone can see it a mile away, people have already told her you like her as more then a friend, so either she is in denial or she knows it and she likes the way things are…. The guys constantly hurt her and she runs to him for comfort. How do I know…. I was this guy many years ago. From I did everything for this girl and she hurt me time after time but if I ever wanted to stop it she would hint at she might be able to date me but as soon as I would stay she would go right back to the bad guys.
I got more and more dispondant until I had to leave town to get away from her. She never changed nor would she as long as I was around, because I was an enabler. Even though I am currently single I would never put myself in that situation again. Thanks for sharing. In the concert i was very physical: i hold her all the concert from the low back and my hand rested in her leg.
There was a soft song where I rested my chin on her shoulder while hugging her and told her I really liked her to be with me there. She was not physical with me, though she only hugged me when we met at the event and before we parted ways. After the concert we went with my friends for dinner and she told me she really liked the concert and she liked me to invite her to hang out. Also there was a guy from her work and she presented me as her friend. She is not that physical. Hi Charles. I began to wonder why another guy would sign for flowers and candles in my own house but I never called my girlfriend to ask.
I went back to work the next day and told my friend about it and he suggested that I should hire a private investigator, I was reluctant at first but the issue was eating me up, I needed to know what had happened, I got a recommendation for a professional investigator who could trace calls, mails and texts, so I hired the guy.
I often contacted the investigator through mail, His mail is ziyevhack At gee mail dot com. He is really good and extremely professional. I sent her packing and now I am a free man. No more deceit in my life. Hey Tripp I need a bit of advice. At the start of college we would hang around a lot, she would ask me to go places with her like to a clothes shop or something and she would also ask me to come to hers for food and watch movies.
I really thought she had feelings for me due to the signals like asking me to go to her house for food, but from that response I doubt it. And the funny thing is that some of my friends in the course kept telling me to ask her out because they thought she really liked me and they were shocked when I got rejected. What should I do Tripp? First, you should learn how attraction works, how to stay out of the friend zone, and how to get a girl to be your girlfriend. Luckily for you, I teach how to do all that everyday on my Youtube channel.
I started talking to this girl from my school recently. Always knew of her but we never connected. We started off v quick, and we both loved talking and doing fun stuff. We mutually talked everyday. Went on dates. Had a blast. She seemed super into me. She asked about my athletics, one time we got sidetracked on a date and ended up at dicks so i could teach her about golf. She talks about going golfing in the summer with me to learn me. She also asked for my track schedule because she said she wanted to come see me.
Asked her about last night the next day and she said basically she meant that and had planned on it the whole night. So we have been talking for a few months, and now she sent me a very sympathetic message, basically saying she doesnt think we can date. She said she wants to continue going out and having fun.
The South of Brazil is generally whiter and wealthier but this comes with a downside which is higher obesity levels. If you like white girls, focus your efforts on the South. Girls in the North of the country are darker and you will have more exotic value as a white guy but you will need solid Portuguese to communicate. I gamed the girl for a while, then left to work the room and talk to more girls. The Brazilian guy stuck to her like glue all night. For example:. Are you looking for a sugar daddy? Be prepared to dress well, dance well, approach a lot, and most importantly….
Knowing Portuguese is a huge advantage in Brazil because it shows that you are interested in a Brazilian woman and her culture — and separates you from all the other gringos who come down hunting for girls. Now I know that many guys will have neither the time nor the inclination to learn Portuguese, so here are my tips for monolinguals:. Brazil is an outward-looking culture and welcoming to visitors so the locals will be friendly enough to talk to you during the day in comparison to people in large western cities but they will be on their guard because street muggings are a common occurrence.
Ask her early in the interaction if she speaks English as this directs the conversation towards your objectives:. Most guys will begin looking for girls online so I suggest paring Tinder with Brazil Cupid or even Latin American Cupid to give yourself the best chance. You can get an idea of the quality of girls online by signing up for a free account at Brazil Cupid. Having sex with a Brazilian girl is an experience that every red-blooded male should experience at least once. Secondly, Brazilian girls are great dancers and have a natural rhythm in their bodies that makes them great both on the dance floor and in the bed.
Also, for those of you who are fans of entering by the back door, anal sex is more popular in Brazil than in other Latin country. If you need convincing, Brazilian people are some of the cleanest on the planet and usually shower three times per day. Do Brazilian girls make good girlfriends? This is only true if you are paying for it. Ive read several articles about Brazillian women. The articles seem to be shills for online dating sites. As someone already pointed out, there are way too many variables to make sweeping generalizations about the women there. Having hardly travelled outside of the United States, Ive recently taken to reading about other nations.
Brazilian women are more conservative than girls in western countries, here sex in first date is rare And when happen is because the woman is an whore. My two brothers, one is master on Taekwondo and another loves to shoot! They would love to teach a guy like you how to talk about their 4 Brazilian sisters! Just let me know when you want the lessons! You guys kill me with that BS, just because you have white skin you think every woman in the world wants you?
MF get over yourself lol. Since last two day I chat with Brazilian divorce woman on online. She inspired with me. I also like that woman so much. Come on guys give me a break. How can you make such sweeping statements like the girls of a country do this and do that. I might agree about the cuisine for instance the girls might be addicted to a staple cuisine for instance, tibetans might love thukpas and momos, but it is wrong to paint them with a single brush and claim something like learn a bit of buddhism and you will pry open a tibetan girls panties….
Little knowledge is very dangerous. I am a male from India. My experience with them from a distance and both intimately is that orientals or chinkis as they are called are the most disgusting, subhuman, sick, primitive, messed up, serial liars. Every movement of theirs is a lie and their very existence is one such.
They are sweet to western males for they want to get a green card or are looking for casual sex. A friend of mine from a royal family in the orient- china, got married, publicised her marriage like any attention seeking whore, and later i found out that she was whoring for the pleasure of it, and she ended up being HIV positive.
You can extend this story to most of the chinkis you see. I am not supporting either side. One of the great things about Brazil is the great ratios in some places. Imagine a nightclub full of hot chicks realistically, a Brazilian is an in the US , something that never happens in the states. I am brazilian. I am feeling like a piece of meat after read all this bullshits.